Excited to
experiment with my passion, animal communication, I’d found a job at a dog
kennel, exchanging 25 hours a week of labor for an apartment. It was a good deal
for me. But after two years of working with barking dogs, I longed for more
peace, freedom and flexibility than the kennel allowed.
"There’s
no way," my mind insisted, "you’ll ever find a better situation than
you already have." Multitudes of emotions were
stirring
inside me. Doubt. Sadness. Resignation. My ego personality was gaining momentum
in its "logical and emotional sales pitch." My thoughts were trying to
convince me to stay right where I was so I wouldn’t be disappointed when I
failed to get a better job and home. Thank God my spirit wasn’t buying the
mental spiel!
Creating Magic
In
my life, I’ve learned that magic occurs when I choose to feel completely my emotions around an issue. New doors
open. Situations improve. I’ve also noticed how life patterns repeat
themselves—how I don’t get what I really want, how I settle for less—when
I don’t feel totally the emotions my mind concocts. The emotional feelings are
the glue that holds old patterns in place. The emotional feelings are what
discourage us from going after what we really want.
When
my mind not so gently reminds me of my fears and failures, I’ve learned to
embrace the emotions that come up. Embracing emotions is just like embracing
children who are scared, hurt, upset or angry. Once "the kids" feel
totally acknowledged, appreciated, allowed (loved), they calm down and don’t
cause any more trouble. "The kids" get out of the way. And you
are free to pursue your joy. Emotions act the same way kids act. Emotions just
want your attention—your
loving attention.
Giving "the
Kids" Room to Move
One
way to give an emotion full recognition and expression (love) is to feel the emotion
as energy,
movement, sensation or vibration—instead
of as a label of sadness, fear or anger. Rather than label an emotion with a
name or category you don’t enjoy feeling, you can choose to feel an e-motion
(energy motion) as a more approachable state such as churning, stirring or heaviness.
Feel an "energy
motion" as aliveness,
life force or power and it’s even
easier to choose to experience your feelings more fully.
Once
an emotion—like a kid—is allowed
to exist just as it is, it has the space to be itself. It feels accepted and
lightens up. Then the "energy motion" naturally moves up and out of
your body. You might experience this sensation of movement as waves of energy,
pulsation, warmth or tingling in your spine, legs, arms or elsewhere in your
body. Different people feel emotions leaving or dissolving—integrating—in
various ways.
When
you give an "energy motion" the room to exist just as it is —without
trying to change it—it has the space to fully express itself. Then it’s done
and out of your way. It goes full cycle and completes itself. Once you free
yourself from the obstructing effect of unfelt emotions, you can move toward
your intention. You can take action toward your dream. You’ll feel more open,
creative, courageous and inspired! In a twist on the old saying, "When the
adult is away, the kids can play!" you can now enjoy, "When the kids
are away, the adult can play!"
Getting My Kids
Out of the Way
After
"feeling my emotions as energy" during my quest for a better job and
home, my intuition suggested I run a want ad in the local newspaper. The first
responses were disheartening —no sweeter deal than I had already. My gut
knotted. "See," my mind implored, "there isn’t anything better.
Stop looking. You'll only feel worse!" More "energy motions" to
accept and feel. Disappointment. Hopelessness. Frustration. Each "kid"
wanted attention. I stayed with the energy motions until I felt genuine
acceptance and appreciation for them. Then they moved out of my way. I
became free of their power to stop me from moving in the direction of my
dream.
Once
my creative space was cleared of blocking emotions, my intuition whispered to
run the ad again: "Professional woman wants private place to live in
exchange for care taking property, animals, plants." My mind perseveres in
its outdated idea of how to keep me safe from failure and disappointment:
"This ad will never work. What a waste of money!" But I don’t listen
—instead I keep on embracing and appreciating "the kids."
After
several days of feeling the churning energy sensations in my body, a pleasant
woman called looking for someone to care for her dog when she and her husband
travel. "The only problem," she candidly revealed, "is that the
guesthouse is rather small, and we live a ways out of town." I liked her
honesty immediately. Soon my truck and I were headin’ out to the country.
My Mind Was Wrong!
It
was love at first sight. The rather small guesthouse is larger than my old
apartment—and much more modern and luxurious. I’m offered a custom furnished
guesthouse including utilities with free phone, Internet service and satellite
TV in exchange for caring for a few days every three months for Vector, a sweet
black Labrador retriever! Spectacular mountain ranges span the horizon for
several hundred miles. A sprawling county park borders the property—thousands
of acres of quiet, lush, pristine land. I find the peace I longed for, plus a
gift of scenic beauty! To top it off, the angel in the guise of a woman
generously purposed, "If you ever want to go out of town at the same time
we do, it’s fine. We’ll call our old pet sitter. Feel free to travel any
time you want." I get the freedom and flexibility I longed for.
Dream
On!
The
more I prove to myself that my emotions—my "kids"—are what limit
my dreams, the more I free myself to change my life. As I find compassionate and
creative ways to acknowledge, love and embrace my kids, my kids get out of the
way of me getting what I want.
How
to Get Anything You Want
1.
Set a clear intention of what you want.
2. Feel and release all the obstructing emotions.
3. Take action steps towards your intention.
Repeat Step 2 until your intention manifests.
4.
Receive, enjoy and celebrate your dream.
My 4
Step Journey to Paradise
1.
I intended to get a peaceful living space and a job with more freedom and
flexibility.
2.
I fully felt my feelings (fear
of disappointment, doubt, sadness)
in order to release their obstructing effect of discouraging and dissuading me
from my goal. (I’ll
never find a better job and place to live)
3.
I took the next step towards my dream and placed the ad. I repeated Step 2 until
the invalidating feelings (I
don’t deserve it, I’m going to fail)
released and my intention showed up.
4.
I received a better job and place to live. I celebrated with a hike in my new,
lush, very expanded environment.
If
you’d like to create what you want in life, you can learn how in The Dream
Workshops at
www.TheDream.com.
Both Keith and Sulana offer personal coaching. Contact
keith@thedream.com
or 800.736.7367.Contact
sulana@redvetteranch.com
or 480.471.3030 (also offers animal communication).
